Friday, 7 April 2017

The World really does revolve around you

 (Byron Bay)

Something a little different, and something some may find wishy washy. But equally something I've been thinking a lot about recently. 

I’m not one to post quotes telling others that this is their only life, as if they may have forgotten. I have also never been one to talk about ~life~ stuff in general such as self love and living for now and living your best life etc. I always scrolled passed, rolling my eyes at someone else who proclaims that this particular quote that just reorders the words of all the other quotes they’ve said before, really spoke to them.  To me these always posed as a cover up for what was really going on in their lives. They work a 9-5 job in the town they were born in and live at their parents, but their recent Facebook post explained that they were living every day like it was their last(?).

There was also a guilt inside that triggered telling me that actually no I’m not living every day like it’s my last I’ve just spent 7 days straight in the library referencing someone else’s work and I’ve lived in the same city for 4 years and I wear gym leggings every day but rarely make it to the gym. How do I live every day like it’s my last? I’m on a course that thinks it’s healthy for your mind to have 4 papers and a presentation due in 1 week and an exam the next. I’m living in a city that is cold, rainy and grey 70% of the time, and all my money goes on rent and food. How can I afford to live every day like it’s my last because that sounds expensive?

(Somewhere above Cairns)

Then I guess moving out the country put things into perspective for me. Sometimes you have to leave a situation to understand what was happening at that time and why it might have been important. I was studying for 4 years so I could learn about design software and social media theories that will benefit my growth and understanding of the industry I want to work in. Everyone is in their ~own lane~. We all have different versions of our best life.  ‘Living life to the full’ doesn’t necessarily mean getting a round-the-world ticket, nor does it mean landing a 5 figure salary straight out of University, nor does it mean getting a boyfriend and a flat and a dog and a joint bank account. In all honesty, the world really does revolve around you. Not in the narcissistic version that the phrase is often coined to, but in the version in that you can’t possibly live in any other world but yours.

You can’t do everything all at the same time and that’s okay, but you don’t learn when you’re comfortable. Take a look at yourself from the outside in. Where are you now and where do you want to be? Working a shitty job right now might be your best option so that you can travel across the world in a years time. And when you’re there, you’ll think back and be grateful of the hours you spent slaving to save for your current enjoyment. How can you be given something when your hand is in your pocket? You might not be living your ideal version of your best life, but you can make the steps to get to it.

(Magnetic Island)

No one knows you better than you. Ever listen to a Grandparent spend hours relaying a story that lights up their face the same way it does yours? Stories aren't made from doing what everyone expects of you. They're not made from following the same path that everyone does around you. It kills me when I see others living their lives for other people, like this is YOUR life we're not all bumbling around together to serve the same purpose, you literally have the power to make all the decisions for yourself. We all want different things and there’s no point focusing your sights on someone else’s life when you can only live in your own. We’re lucky enough to be living in a time when you can spend reality chasing your dreams and actually get them.

Cartia Mallan explains this concept in more depth here.  

Society teaches us about certain life templates we have to choose from. The American dream template, the hippy template, the education template. But in this case, one size does not fit all. We all want different things, value different things and dream different things. We're all individuals. We can make our own template, or not live by a template at all. 
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